A coalition of Christian leaders has faulted recent remarks by the General Overseer of the Redeemed Christian Church of God, Enoch Adeboye, advising men against marrying women who cannot cook.
Adeboye had made the comment during the church’s May Holy Ghost Service, where he urged young men to prioritise spiritual discernment and practical domestic competence over physical attraction, warning that marriages built solely on beauty could end in regret.
The cleric referenced biblical figures, including Sarah and the Shunamite woman, as models of hospitality, stressing that culinary skills should not be overlooked in choosing a spouse.
However, the position has drawn criticism from members of the Ecumenical Synods of Bishops, Archbishops, Apostles and Senior Clergy, who described the advice as non-binding and subjective.
Reacting in an interview, the group’s International Secretary, Osazee William, said cooking ability should not be elevated to a key requirement for marriage, noting that such skills can be learned by either partner.
He maintained that while Adeboye remains a respected figure, his comment does not constitute a scriptural directive.
“Is it a biblical requirement that a woman must know how to cook before marriage? Even men can cook. This should be seen as an opinion, not a doctrine,” he said.
William, who also heads the International Fellowship of Ecumenical Ministries, emphasised that character, godliness and diligence should form the core considerations in marital decisions.
He added that evolving socio-economic realities have altered traditional family roles, with many women now serving as breadwinners and having limited time for domestic responsibilities.
“Marriage should be based on broader values. A person who cannot cook can always learn. What matters more is character and discipline,” he said.
Adeboye had also warned against entering into financially burdensome marriages, particularly where wedding plans could plunge couples into debt. He further cautioned men against focusing excessively on outward appearance, describing it as potentially misleading.
The exchange of views reflects ongoing debates within religious circles on the criteria for marriage, especially amid changing societal norms and expectations.
